Qualify The Buyer

February is upon us, for most folks that means Valentine’s Day. But before you go breaking out the chocolates, roses and champagne, allow me to shed some light on a few things. Not so much on Valentine’s Day but on choosing your Valentine.

Why is it that when it comes to choosing a partner, so often we let our guard down and just let whimsical thinking take over? Now, don’t get me wrong…I am one of the biggest hopeless romantics around but when it comes to matters of the heart I have learned thru my own life lessons to take a step back. I used to think all it takes is just seeing the guy who caught my eye, feeling the “spark” and all would be well. But as I have gotten older and experienced relationships I have come to learn a valuable lesson in love.

Thanks to Patti Stanger from Million Dollar Matchmaker, raises a valid point when it comes to dating and picking the “one”. Instead of just going with the first signs of physical attraction…take a step back and consider this “Qualify The Buyer”. Why is it with everything else we feel is an important purchase in our life we take the time to do the research, get feedback and weigh all the options before we make the “purchase”? We find out what other people have said about the product, does it come with a warranty, what kind of stock does it come from, what kind of mileage does it have, does it have good credit, is it a credible source, a positive experience? So then, why is it when it comes to a mate we just jump in with both feet at the first sign of attraction? A mate in my opinion is one of the most important purchases/commitments we will ever make in our lives. Clearly, we do not purchase each other but in a way, it is a lifetime investment. So take the time to really do your homework.

So what about that little thing that makes us go run thru the red light without stopping and blurs our vision so we cannot make clear decisions? What might that be you ask? Two words: SEX and LUST. Steve Harvey said it should take no less than 90 days before you consider sleeping with a potential mate. Why? Because once you sleep with someone it complicates things, especially if you are a woman. Emotions get involved and you are instantly connected. This is a scientific fact. Thru a chemical released in our female bodies during sex called pitocin . Think of it like a bonding agent. With knowing that now as a female, knowing that sleeping with someone bonds you to them…why not think twice. Do you really want to risk being bonded to Bozo the clown?

Consider this, being intimate with someone means sharing our most intimate and private parts of our body and soul. Why would you chance that on some random person/purchase and risk hurting yourself or someone else. Are you not worth taking the time and investment to see who is worthy of receiving YOU. Not you receiving them as we tend to think. YOU are the pristine prize…so qualify the buyer! You are worth it.

So what should some of the things you need to consider to qualify the buyer? For starters, make sure the person is of good character, integrity and makes you smile. A person that does not make you doubt yourself but instead supports , respects and encourages your growth and success. A person with a good track record (a compulsive cheater does not qualify!), someone with Love in their heart and good energy that does not make you feel drained or stressed when they leave the room. Trust your gut, instincts and your heart. Do not let fear hold you back from the love you deserve and never settle!

Now that you are armed with information, and you know your self worth…go out there and pick your Valentine Remember you are worth it and only accept someone who is qualified to be with you. Only you can set what the standard of those qualifications are. “You get, what you expect”. So aim high my little cupids. Love is in the air….

Happy Valentine’s Day to You!

~Namaste